“After my perpetrator was found responsible of sexually assaulting me, the Title IX office issued a skewed [Do Not Contact Order (DNCO)] without my consent. When I asked if this order could be removed (because it was also a restriction on my actions and movement on campus, and complicated social dynamics in spaces where we would both have operated in the past), I was told it could not be removed because the University was “concerned about my physical safety.” Given this concern, it is highly alarming that the perpetrator remained on campus.
Further, the skewed DNCO was then used by the perpetrator to retaliate against me. He filed complaints that I was not following the order and though these complaints were flagged as “obviously retaliatory” by Michele Minter, I was required to respond to and refute these complaints (which were submitted with NO evidence). If the complaints had been substantiated, I still would not have been in violation of the order. For example, one complaint was that he heard my first name being called inside his dorm. My first name is shared by many students on campus, including some students who live in his building. Even if the calling of “Jane Doe” WAS referring to me, someone calling my name and referring to me in his building would not be a violation of the order on my part.
Nonetheless, I received countless emails from my DSL, requesting comments on the irrelevant, untrue, and unsubstantiated complaints (the example given along with others). Providing the requested responses has been not only a major time commitment but also an enormous emotional burden. The Title IX office’s finding of responsibility in my case resulted in effectively disciplining me instead of the perpetrator. It has provided the perpetrator with an outlet for his anger and an opportunity to make sure that I am constantly reminded of his sexual assault of me. He has been enabled to use his “penalty” to assure that I experience additional emotional trauma on a constant basis. ”
— Anonymous Princeton Undergraduate Student